My Philosophy of Therapy for Trauma and Abuse
One of the problems I had with the therapists that I saw when I was healing from abuse was that some of them, although well meaning I am sure, would tell me what to do. As an abuse victim, I felt like I had my choices, power and control completely taken away from me so telling me what I should do was not a helpful therapeutic response… I am not the only abuse survivor that has felt this way. It is a common theme for many who have experienced abuse.
As a result of this experience, in my work as a therapist and counselor, I am a firm believer in choice. Therefore during trauma therapy, you choose what you want to tell me, when you want to tell me, and how you want to tell me. That does not mean that I am a passive listener. I will suggest therapeutic techniques that I believe are appropriate for you at any given time and I will ask questions that may “push your envelope” from time to time.
What is most important for you in therapy is that you choose whether or not you want to engage in what I suggest. Regaining your sense of choice, power and control is crucial in your healing from abuse and trauma.
I have grown and healed immensely since I started my sessions with Bett.
My “abusive” experience had left me mentally, emotionally and physically exhausted. I had lost my sense of who I was and my self esteem. Even though I had a network of friends and supporters, I still felt alone and abandoned. My daughter was also suffering the affects of our abusive existence and her health and well being was a great concern to me.
Although touted as a very strong and sometimes stoic person, I felt very lost inside. Bett has helped me get to know and love myself in my journey. Even though I have a lot on my plate, I’m learning to take care of myself and practice “self care”. I’ve learned I can set boundaries and it is okay to set them.
Bett also validates my feelings of sadness, frustration and fear. I find this a very helpful release for me. I sense her deep understanding of my feelings which is very comforting.
I have grown and healed immensely since I started my sessions with Bett. I feel stronger and when faced with a crisis I draw on the work I have done with Bett to help me stay strong, focused and to believe in myself and my abilities.
– Dena, Vancouver, BC
My Therapy Approach With Abuse and Trauma
Although I have been trained and certified in a variety of therapeutic schools including Gestalt therapy and Satir Family Systems therapy, I have found Self Regulation Therapy (SRT) to be the most successful with my clients who have experienced abuse and trauma.
Through the combination of psychology and science, Self Regulation Therapy allows for the dissipation of the trapped trauma energy in you without re-traumatizing you. SRT helps you become more aware of emotional body sensations that appear in the moment and allows you to work through these old emotions in a supportive environment with a therapist.
At the time you experienced your abuse, your body reacted with the fight-flight-freeze survival instinct. You would have had an intense amount of emotional and traumatic energy from this reaction. If you didn’t have enough internal and/or external resources and supports available to you when the trauma occurred, the trauma energy with its accompanying painful emotions would have been trapped in your nervous system.
When you “revisit” the abusive and traumatic events in counselling, we will work slowly, allowing only a tolerable amount of the trauma energy to come forth at a time. As we work with SRT, your body will relax and overtime dissipate your trapped trauma energy. As the trauma energy decreases, your self-esteem, self-respect, self-worth and self-confidence will increase. Eventually, you will notice many changes in your life as the trauma heals.
If you think you might benefit from my therapy services to help you heal your symptoms of abuse, please contact me for a free 10 minute phone consultation. I can be reached at:
604.222.2121 or firstname.lastname@example.org