Counselling and therapy can help you heal from the trauma or abuse you experienced.
You can have a happy and fulfilling life and great relationships too!
The Outcome of Therapy With Bett was Excellent!
When I first came to see Bett I was struggling with depression. I was at the bottom of a big, black hole with nowhere to go but “up”. I felt hopeless, like there wasn’t a way out of the darkness that had grabbed my soul and heart. I was overwhelmed by my deep sadness and was unable to put one foot in front of the other. I couldn’t even get out of bed in the mornings.
Overall the outcome of my therapy sessions was excellent. Through counselling with Bett, I was able to get back on my feet. I could… once more ‘focus’ and see clearly the path I was on. She helped me to get back the will to want to carry on.
I would like to encourage you to never think ”asking for help” is a sign of weakness (or… as some ignorant people like to say: you are crazy etc.)… it is just the opposite. To know you need help and to seek it is a sign of inner strength and intelligence.
So… if you are struggling with your own difficult problems… phone Bett. You won’t regret it.
– Carol, Vancouver, BC
As a survivor of trauma, or physical or sexual abuse perhaps you relate to some of the following:
- Triggering events (flashbacks of past abuse events)
- Low self worth and self confidence
- Chronic problems in intimate relationships
- Depression and anxiety
- Intrusive thoughts (thoughts about the abuse that persist even when you try and make them stop)
- Hyper-vigilant (always feeling on guard, tense, braced for potential danger)
- Withdrawn and isolating yourself from others
- Unexplained physical pain (pain that may be related to the memory of the abuse that has no medical explanation)
- Nightmares or insomnia
- Emotional over-eating or under-eating
- Relationship problems (inability to stay in relationships or always getting hurt)
- Sexual problems (lack of sexual desire, inability to achieve orgasm, pain during sex, etc.)
- Engaging in unwanted sexual activity; inability to say “no” to sexual advances
- Engaging in risky sexual behaviors (unprotected sex, one night stands)
- Inability to control emotions (emotional outbursts)
- Feeling “numb” or emotionless
I am now stronger than I had ever felt was possible.
I started seeing Bett McLean for my struggles with general anxiety and panic disorder. When I first started seeing Bett I was so consumed with anxiety that I was just barely functioning. It had gotten to the point that my doctor had suggested that I go on medication for my issues. However using medication to deal with my anxiety was something I did not want, feeling that it is only a bandaid solution to a bigger problem. Bett understood this, and instead worked with me to find ways to manage my anxiety. With her support I have learned to face my fears and deal with the demons from my past. I am now stronger than I had ever felt was possible. I have gone back to school and am in my second year of getting my degree. I truly believe that without Bett, none of this would have been possible and I would not be where I am now. Bett, thank you… I cannot express how important you are to me and how grateful I am to have been blessed with having you in my life.
– Carissa Gonce
If you are Suffering from Any of the Above Abuse Symptoms, Trauma or Abuse Counselling or Therapy Can Help…
The effect of trauma from abuse can be debilitating. You may feel isolated and alone. Perhaps you have not told anyone for fear of not being believed. At times you may have trouble believing it happened yourself. You may feel shame about what occurred and perhaps hopeless about your future.
Even though you may know the abuse you experienced was not your fault, part of you may believe that somehow you should have been able to prevent it. You may even believe that you somehow caused it.
You may feel defiled and damaged. Your emotions may be intense, spontaneous, and unpredictable. It may feel like your emotions control you. On the other hand, you may feel emotionless, numb; like you are going through the motions of living, but not feeling connected to life. You may be fed-up with unfulfilling or painful relationships. You want all the pain to stop.
I Now Believe in My Decisions and Stand By Them… Without Regret!
I first started seeing Bett for counselling when I was a teenager. I had problems from childhood that needed to be addressed in order for me to have a good future. We worked together on many subjects such as jobs, finances, past abuse and most importantly self-abuse.
Bett has a way of making you feel very comfortable. She does not judge you. You could be telling her the most scariest or traumatic experience and she wouldn’t even blink! This makes it easy to talk to her about anything. I also found it useful that Bett has ‘been there, done that’ when it came to hard stuff that I have dealt with, so it made it easier to open up since she knew what I was talking about.
There are too many lessons that I have learned through being in therapy with Bett, but some of the most important ones I will say are: 1) To trust in yourself and your decisions. Once you understand a problem, then you have choices (you are never stuck in a particular place) 2) Home is not somewhere out there but within you. If you know you are safe inside, then no matter where you are, you take that knowledge with you.
As a result of my counselling with Bett, I now believe in the decisions I make (and stand by them no matter the consequences, without regret). After all the hard work throughout the years, I am happily married with a wonderful husband AND love my job! I am not afraid of life anymore. No matter what happens, I know she will always be there if needed. Bett is my life coach!
– Linda, Vancouver, BC
Trauma or Abuse Doesn’t Have to Be Difficult to Heal…
If You Feel Discouraged Because You Have Tried Many Things in The Past Without Success — Counselling, Therapy, Self-Help Books, etc — You Are Not Alone.
You may have tried many things to overcome the effects of your traumatic or abusive experiences. Perhaps you have attempted to use your determination and will power to ignore the unpleasant memories and feelings. Maybe you have tried talking to trusted friends, only to have found temporary relief.
You may have read numerous self-help books on the topic of abuse. Perhaps they have helped you some, although they haven’t brought about the changes you would like. You may have confided in your doctor, perhaps been given prescription medication for depression, anxiety or inability to sleep. You may have even seen a counsellor, therapist or psychologist that once again had little or no effect.
Whatever you may have done to heal yourself from the devastating effects of abuse or trauma, you continue to struggle. You likely want nothing more than to be happy and to have a good life.
There is Hope. There is Quality of Life After Trauma and Abuse.
You Can Have a Fabulous Life — Deeper, Richer, and Filled With Passion and Joy.
The memory of the abuse or trauma that happened to you may never go away, but it can become a distant memory. Therapy can help you come to a place where you feel good about yourself and your life. You can feel comfortable in situations that previously “triggered” you.
Counselling can help you feel complete, confident, grounded and calm. You can feel whole again. Through therapy, you can eventually feel good about your body and be able to have fulfilling experiences.
I wanted to take this opportunity to thank you and let you know how very much you have helped me.
When I met you, my life was in complete chaos. I was on the tilting edge of a complete breakdown and my children were at risk. Leaving their abusive father was just the beginning of a difficult and frightening journey. I was a victim of abuse through my childhood and three husbands. My self-worth was nowhere to be found. I had been to other therapists, but I could not seem to make any progress or rise above my past. Your methods and your gentle consistent caring style were what finally broke through. I now parent with confidence and can cope with the ups and downs of daily living. Without your help I can truthfully say my children and I would not have been able to survive. Our future was bleak. Thank you Bett, for helping me find my way back to sanity and becoming the mother my children needed.
With Love and Sincere Gratitude,
– Catherine Peters
The Benefits of Abuse Counselling or Therapy
Through counselling with me, you can:
- Feel strong and confident
- Trust yourself and others
- Have meaningful and healthy relationships
- Be free from depression and anxiety
- Feel in control of your emotions and be able to experience them freely
- Eat healthy and feel good about your body
- Have satisfying and healthy relationships and sexual experiences
- Sleep peacefully
- Feel good about your future
- Get your power, control and personal choices back
Through specialized abuse therapy and counselling you can achieve all of the above and more…
The true measure of what I achieved from my therapy sessions with Bett I cannot put into words.
When I first met Bett, I was experiencing debilitating physical and psychological pain, which affected every area of my life. I was struggling with Fibromyalgia, inability to sleep, exhaustion, depression, isolation, and felt alienated from other people. I had seen many counsellors over the years, but it was through seeing Bett in the last 2 years that I achieved light years of personal growth.
Seeing Bett was like a life preserver. The true measure of what I achieved from my therapy sessions with her I cannot put into words. Overall, she really helped me achieve my value and potential. I now have much more clarity into my deeply rooted beliefs and attitudes that had previously gotten in my way during my life. In addition, her compassionate presence has shown me how to claim that for myself.
– Shelia, Vancouver, BC
Self Regulation Therapy is a Scientifically Proven Therapy Offering Relief from Problems Due to Abuse
As a therapist, I am trained in several methods of therapy. The one that I find provides the most sustainable relief is called Self Regulation Therapy (SRT). SRT is a cutting edge therapy that combines psychology and science. SRT offers not just a temporary relief of abuse symptoms, but a permanent dissipation of the traumatic or “stuck” energy in the brain and nervous system. Through Self Regulation Therapy, the brain creates new neuropathways as the memory of the abuse fades into the background.
Self Regulation Therapy resolves fears, anxieties and problems associated with the trauma of abuse. Through the discharging of the trauma energy in the brain and nervous system, Self Regulation Therapy allows you to have a deeper, more intimate relationship with yourself and other people. You will get your power back, allowing you to be in control of your choices. You will feel much more engaged in your life and freer to be who you are.
As a result of my counselling with Bett I am happier and more at peace with myself than I have even been!
When I began seeing Bett for therapy I had recently separated from a marriage. I was very afraid. I was deeply worried about losing my family and was especially concerned about the impact on my children. I was feeling very anxious and alone.
Without Bett’s support, I would not have been able to get through my separation. She quickly zeroed in on core issues, which had not been my experience with other counsellors.
As a result of my counselling with her I am happier and more at peace with myself than I have ever been! I have now found my voice in relationships and in my life in general. I am taking much better care of myself and am living a more authentic life. Bett is great! I would recommend her to anyone.
– Karen, Vancouver, BC
Why Choose Me As Your Therapist?
Not only am I trained in Self Regulation Therapy, one of the most advanced and researched forms of therapy available, I am also someone who has recovered from abuse. I know first-hand how difficult it can be to overcome the problems associated with abuse. I spent years struggling with fears, anxieties and problems related to my own abusive experiences. However, with the help and support of therapists and counsellors, I am excited to say that I have resolved my abuse issues.
Today, I am happy and free from my past. I love my work, It is part of my fabulous life. I have been working in this field since 1993 and I continue to find it an honour to provide a safe, non-judgmental space to help people heal from abuse.