When something goes wrong in your life, what is your thought process around that event… what do you tell yourself about what happened and why it happened?
Do you blame someone else… do you blame yourself… or do you do both?
It is a typical, generational conditioning for people to want to place blame somewhere. It is also ones auto response. That’s not the problem… the problem arises when someone gets stuck in that ‘blame game’… that never ends well. That negative energy ‘poisons’ the person who is doing the blaming and that ‘poison’ will leak out onto others… your partner… your children… your friends… your work world… etc… even if you don’t want it to.
The important part is to find the solution… to pull yourself out of the ‘blame game’… to take responsibility for your own thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
How do I do that, you ask? Great question!
The answer is not a simple one as we all have different personalities and need different techniques to achieve our own solution. Here are a few suggestions…
When you have a negative thought, challenge it…ask yourself if that thought is true, partially true, false… or is it your emotional reaction to being hurt.
Step out of your emotion and see the situation logically and rationally… from the 40,000 foot big picture level.
You have your version of the event but add at least two more possible versions of the same event… your version is not necessarily the correct version… even though you may be very attached to it.
Keep in mind that there are three versions of an event… your version… their version… and somewhere in between, where reality can often be found.
Above all else… be kind… caring… and respectful… to yourself and others!